The exes and me.

I lived my life by several rules.
God almighty first, family next.
Be honest even when it hurts.
Love unconditionally.
Sex is easy, love is complicated. to name a few.

Talking to a friend the other day I mentioned I had to call an ex to wish her a happy birthday.

They couldn't understand why I would do such a thing. after all that is your 'ex!'

My explanation went as follows.

When two people decide to 'date,' 'hang out,' 'chill,' 'kick it,' 'commit,' etc you do so with someone who you actually or probably like. some where along the line into becoming a couple love steps in. my thinking is, I may be wrong, but if we were lovers and friends and along the line we stop being lovers why cant we as mature (believing you are that way) people, remain friends?. Be amicable about it.
If there wasn't any form of violence/abuse (mentally,physically).
Love has to have respect.

There are exes that to this day, I still tell them I love them, and it is true. I do, and I think I always will. They made that sort of impact on my life. I'm not in love with them. (that's just unhealthy, as well as stalkerish)!!!

So to you I say, before you step into the arena of affection, sex, love etc, look carefully and see if this is a person that if things don't work out will still have my back, be a friend.

esjayce.