The exes and me.

I lived my life by several rules.
God almighty first, family next.
Be honest even when it hurts.
Love unconditionally.
Sex is easy, love is complicated. to name a few.

Talking to a friend the other day I mentioned I had to call an ex to wish her a happy birthday.

They couldn't understand why I would do such a thing. after all that is your 'ex!'

My explanation went as follows.

When two people decide to 'date,' 'hang out,' 'chill,' 'kick it,' 'commit,' etc you do so with someone who you actually or probably like. some where along the line into becoming a couple love steps in. my thinking is, I may be wrong, but if we were lovers and friends and along the line we stop being lovers why cant we as mature (believing you are that way) people, remain friends?. Be amicable about it.
If there wasn't any form of violence/abuse (mentally,physically).
Love has to have respect.

There are exes that to this day, I still tell them I love them, and it is true. I do, and I think I always will. They made that sort of impact on my life. I'm not in love with them. (that's just unhealthy, as well as stalkerish)!!!

So to you I say, before you step into the arena of affection, sex, love etc, look carefully and see if this is a person that if things don't work out will still have my back, be a friend.

esjayce.

press play

time to press play, been on pause too long. need to write more. get it out, not keep it in. let the world (my select few readers) know whats on my mind.

wake up call

Recently I was working on a project with my dad. a weekend project, going on for several weekends now, and we are just about complete.
Its always fun doing stuff with my ole man.
I have learned so much from him and still have so much to learn.
We sit and discuss our plan of action, how best to do it, what we need etc.
some things can only be done by trial and error. but we get it done.
So in wrapping up on Sunday, daddy says 'one day all these tools will be your'.
i smiled, then frowned.
It was my wake up call, that one day i will have to take over the reigns of the family. As the first born there are certain expectations and responsibilities you will have...

Am i ready to assume such a role? full time?

yes but not yet. i still need my pops around to show me how to be a father. as they say grandchildren are parents revenge.

so daddy, yes I'm ready for the reigns, but can i ride shot gun for a bit longer.

love always
your proud son
S